Persuading your partner to try a sex toy is similar to coaxing him into anything new – sexual or not. Change can be unsettling, but sexual changes can be even more so because intimacy is loaded with emotion. Some men may feel that the reason you want to try a toy means his abilities or equipment are not satisfying to you. Reassure him that he is irreplaceable, that includes a toy is just an enhancement to introduce some variety and spice to your sex life.

For men who feel that sex aids are unnatural and say that sex should involve no more than your two bodies, you can point out that a sex toy is just like any other sexual enhancement; lingerie, perfume, candlelight or sexy movies. Pointing this out might provide some perspective on your desire to introduce a sex toy. Your relationship is a partnership – you are both in this together. Make the decision together, select the toy together. Trust goes a long way, and sharing the experience helps promote that trust.

Talk to him about toys and your curiosity to try them with him. The reality of sex toys may be a bit overwhelming for him, so don’t pressure him if he pauses. He may think that a sex toy will replace him – you can respond by asking him if masturbation makes him desire you any less. The obvious answer is no, it doesn’t. Just listen to him and consider his feelings. He might not be willing now, but you’ve opened the door and if he’s even slightly curious, he’ll be thinking about it. Remember, great communication equals great sex.

Let him watch you with your toy and encourage him to use it with you. Help him out by telling him what to do, where to put it, and how it feels. Eventually, try to use the toy with him. Be gentle, only use it lightly and allow him to get the general feeling of the vibrations against sensitive areas like behind his testicles, or slide it gently along the shaft of his penis.

Be flexible when introducing new toys. What you think might be a perfect toy may not work out for him. That’s perfectly ok; put that one aside for yourself and try something different. Communicate with him and find out what he’s curious about or do a little research and show him your findings before you buy. A great introductory couples’ toy is a c-ring. Communicate how the added sensations can enhance your experience.

Always use a lubricant when engaging in any sexual activity and a toy cleanser when using toys.

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Along with legalizing masturbation for yourself, comes a variety of questions regarding masturbation frequency, technique or even downsides to engaging in masturbation. First of all, there is no universally accepted theory as to how often one should masturbate. Masturbation is a whenever wherever however practice. It has been reported that some men regularly masturbate as often as six times a day with no apparent harm. The only plausible downside of frequent masturbation is that men who masturbate excessively may risk desensitization as their penis will become accustomed to the stronger stimulus of the hand, or for women, over stimulating the clit with vibrators may also reduce sensitivity during intercourse. The simple solution? Abstain from masturbation for a period of time and voila! sensitivity is restored. Please note that excessive masturbation can only be determined individually, based on the number of skin abrasions, bruises, or the time spent masturbating and whether it keeps one from engaging in other necessary activities according to sexpert Brenda Love.

Men, lube up and start masturbating. Masturbation seems to be the best preventative care option for prostate cancer according to an Australian study lead by Graham Giles, of the Cancer Council Victoria in Melbourne. Reuters in London reports: “Frequent masturbation, particularly in the 20s, helps prevent prostate cancer later in life, according to new research. Australian scientists have shown that the more men masturbate between the ages of 20 and 50, the less likely they are to develop the disease that kills more than half a million men each year. They suspect that frequent ejaculation has a protective effect against the cancer because it prevents dangerous carcinogens from building up in the gland. In a survey of 1,079 prostate cancer patients and 1,259 healthy men, Giles and his team discovered that men who ejaculated more than five times a week in their 20s were a third less likely to develop an aggressive form of the disease.”

Muscle tone is another subsidiary benefit of frequent masturbation. Brenda Love suggests that regular masturbation improves one’s ability to achieve orgasm by keeping the pubococcygeus (PC) muscle in tone. The PC muscle covers the genital region from the mons pubis to the anus, and is the muscle for which a physician named Arnold Kegel, developed the “Kegel exercise” to help intensifying or control orgasms. A person exercises this muscle by simply stopping and restarting the flow of their urine or through regular masturbation. An improvement of muscle tone and in orgasms through masturbation should be noticeable within a few weeks.

An often overlooked benefit of masturbation is that it never becomes boring because there are so many masturbation aids, lubricants and masturbation sex toys on the market. If you’re looking to spice things up, why not experiment with a vibrator, a dildo, or even an Anal plug. But the true pleasure and benefit of masturbation is the pleasure that one derives from masturbation. The sky is really the limit… so take matters into your own hands literally.

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Shopping for sex toys is somewhat risqué, and let’s face it, it’s not quite like shopping for carrots or cucumbers—despite plausible parallel uses!

Many people do not have access to an actual sex toy retail store and others simply do not want to visit a sex toy retail store. And frankly, who wants an adult sex toy catalogue sitting in their mailbox for every Tom, Dick and Harry to know about?

Shopping for sex toys on the World Wide Web is the ideal solution with easy access to large databases containing information about sex toys and about sex toy purchase. It is a discreet, easy, and convenient way for people to order from the privacy of their own homes.

Conducting an online search for a sex toy is not the same as being able to pick up and hold a sex toy in a sextoy retail outlet, but online website sex toy retailers provide far more detailed and up-to-date information about sex toy products. As the consumer, this allows you to compare available sex toy products, look at sex toy prices, and determine sex toy availability prior to making your purchase. An added bonus—most retailers will respond to your sextoy questions and also allow returns on unused sex toy items.

Shopping online is a cheaper way to do business for a sex toy retailer which motivates them to reward you for shopping online with frequent discounts, freebies, sales, and other ordering incentives. This is truly a win-win situation: not only do you get a wider selection of sex toys, all of your sex toy questions answered, but you also get a discount on the sex toy(s). One disadvantage to be aware of: as search engines make price comparisons easier, many companies rename products, and what one company lists as a top-of-the-line sex toy may be another company’s junk. Shop carefully and if a sex toy product price looks too good to be true, it probably is not the same sex toy product you saw on a competitor’s website.

What determines a good reliable online sex toy retailer?

We suggest:

• Get sex toy site recommendations from friends. Word-of-mouth referrals are priceless.
• Go with recommendations from sex toy sites you trust. If you like a particular sextoy site, check its links page or find out if it’s affiliated with any sex toy stores.
• Look for the “about us” page on a site. Try to determine who is behind the sex toy site so that you can assess whether the online sextoy retailer seems above board or not.
• Verify a company’s legitimacy. Call its toll-free number, request a paper catalog, or send snail mail (ordinary postal mail) with your questions. Since email can be easily manipulated, don’t rely on that for confirmation. You can always check with the Better Business Bureau if you’re skeptical.
• Check out a company’s policies. If it has a generous return policy and clearly stated policies on confidentiality and privacy, there’s a good chance it’s not out to scam you.

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Vibrating Cock Rings

In our experience we have found that many men deem cock ring sex toys to be an invaluable tool when having sex. The cock ring sex toy fits snugly around the base of the penis and scrotum restricting blood flow out of the penis. The act of restricting penile blood flow results in a stronger and longer lasting erection which may also contribute to a more intense orgasm for men. As vibrations are used to enhance masturbation or intercourse, the combination of a cock ring and the vibrator are an exquisite treat for a man and his partner as the vibrations for this sex toy are also felt along the shaft of the wearer’s penis.

The majority of cock rings are constructed using plastic, jelly rubber, or latex with a bullet vibe sex toy attached at one or both ends of the cock ring sex toy which allows for testicular or Clitoral Stimulation in the event of intercourse. A latex pouch is combination cock ring and testicle pouch. The testicles are held in the pouch with the vibrating bullet underneath the testicles and attached to the pouch is the cock ring that you slide you penis into. It keeps the penis nice and erect and the testicle pouch sex toy positions the bullet vibe where it provides the most sensation.

Vibrating Sleeves

Vibrating sleeve sex toys can be made of vinyl, jelly or latex, and are primarily used for enhancing masturbation as the penis slides in and out of the sleeve, simulating penetration and reducing chaffing that may accompany hand masturbation for the man. Shapes and colors abound, so if you want one that looks like a tube, lips, vaginas, an anus or an unidentifiable object, such masturbation sleeves probably exist and come with a bullet that slides into one end to provide the vibrations you desire in a sex toy.

Jelly vibrating sleeves are reputed to be the closest sex toy imitation of real penetration, but the key to vibrating sleeve sex toys is to have the sex toy canal be lined with ribs so that as your penis slides in and out the ribs create a sucking sensation. These jelly toys are also available in a non vibrating version and have been given rave reviews as well.

Vibrating Pumps

Penis Pump sex toys have always been popular and their popularity has been boosted by the Austin Powers series. The addition of vibrators to the Penis Pump creates a pleasurable sucking sensation for men that helps to pull blood into the penis, engorging it and making it temporarily thicker. Who can complain with those kinds of results? Usually the bullet vibe is a separate addition to the Penis Pump sex toy that you add if you want.

Vibrating Vaginas, Anuses and Lips

Made out of jelly, cyberskin, latex and usually molded from a real live woman’s genitals, these sex toy products give you the most exciting part of the person without the whole body. In addition a vibrating bullet is located in the center of the vagina or anus sex toy to bring some life and suction to the genitalia that you won’t readily be able to put down.

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The G-spot. Elusive, beckoning and almost mythical—for some it is the Holy Grail incarnate and for some women’s partners it is the eternal search for the Holy Grail. However, in New York it seems that even the basic necessity of the g-spot search is being questioned–if we’ve found the clit why look for the big-G? New Yorkers like status quo, why else do we spend an eternity searching for the perfect rent-controlled apartment?

Lately the clitoris has been hogging the spotlight. Let me preface this by stating that I have nothing against the clitoris, in fact, I happen to be very fond of mine, but the clitoris has been the media darling of late. Personally, I feel that this rediscovery of the clitoris has been to the detriment of its shy neighbor, the g-spot.
Ladies and gentlemen, it is time to welcome back the g-spot.
Of course, it’s true the clitoris has some definite advantages over the g-spot.

1. It is easy to find. In ancient times it was said that all roads lead to Rome. On the woman’s downtown map, all roads lead to the clitoris. If you showed up for 8th grade sex-ed or freshman bio, you have no excuse for not knowing where the clitoris lives. Bonus—most women know how to find their clitoris if they’ve spent five minutes with themselves. And after Sex and the City, how could you not know? The first few seasons could almost pass as clitoris 101. The g-spot, however, takes a little more time. It is like taking the scenic route: you could get where you’re going on the west side highway and never miss the view because you never thought to notice; whereas if you take the time you may stumble on to something amazing en route… I did!

2. There is no debate over existence—the clitoris exists. The G-spot, now there lays a matter for debate. Biologically it exists. Trust me. I went to a G-spot 101 lecture where not only did I pour over female anatomy charts but I had to find and proficiently stimulate the g-spot of an anatomically correct model of the female pelvis. Anatomically speaking, the g-spot is a mass of tissue cells that lie around the urethra and become readily engorged with fluid once stimulated. For everyone who is scratching their heads right now, don’t feel badly, I went out with my part time lover after this lecture, where once he got over the shock of my going to a sex lecture, proceeded to adamantly profess the g-spot’s nonexistence. To make a long story short, that health professional (yes! health professional!!!!) got an education he won’t be forgetting anytime soon. No more excuses, its time to dust off those bio books and please your woman.

3. The clitoris takes less work. An arsenal of known tools exists to stimulate the clitoris and it is, so to speak, easier to hammer in a nail when you can see than when you’re in the dark. Vibrator Clit = Orgasm. This is an equation you can depend upon. Now here is a new variable, the g-spot. Do your woman a favor, find a vibe that does double duty–my pick–a FunFactory silicone vibrator like the Patchy Paul. Cute and unassuming, this vibrator packs a kick that will satisfy the clit plus Paul’s curved head is IDEAL for hitting the g-spot. Case and point: tired of being left unfulfilled by her “very experienced” boyfriend my friend brought along her other “friend”, Paul. After a rudimentary education (and some serious ego stroking), Paul helped the boyfriend earn his “experienced” stripes; “very” came after the lecture.

Vibrators not your thing or still confused?

Thought so! It’s the right time for the helpful lesson. Make a little tunnel with your hand like when you were a kid and pretended a train/car was going to go through the tunnel you made. You guessed it! The top of your hand is the belly button side and the tips of your index and thumb are the butt side of the woman’s exterior anatomy. If you were to insert two well-lubed fingers (nails clipped pleased!) into your woman’s holiest of holies, the g-spot would correspond to the area behind the fleshy skin between your thumb and forefinger when you make a hand tunnel. Another hint—the g-spot will feel a little like the roof of your mouth. Once you’ve found the spot—your woman WILL let you know (mmm mmm uhh… oh yeah, yes, mmm… yeah, unhummmm)—curl your fingers and apply some pressure as you make a come hither motion—think two fingered version of Jennifer Grey beckoning Patrick Swayze in Dirty Dancing.

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The prostate is a gland of the male reproductive system. It is not found in women. Its primary function is the production of seminal fluid, and it also stimulates orgasm in males. The prostate gland can be affected by disease, including infectious inflammation or prostatitis, and prostate cancer, the second most deadly cancer among American males. Many people recommend milking the prostate regularly as a preventative treatment against prostate cancer and prostatitis.

Prostate milking is also referred to as prostate massage. It is a fairly simple procedure and you can do it yourself if you want to. Here are the steps to take in milking the prostate on your own:

1. Perform urination or a bowel movement in order to maximize the relaxation of the area.

2. Make sure that your fingernails are trimmed and have no jagged edges jutting out.

3. Clean your body and your hands thoroughly. Then put on a sterile latex glove on your hand. Dab a little water-based lubricant on your fingers.

4. Carefully insert your finger or fingers into your anus. Move them gradually upwards and to the back, along the area of the rectum towards the front of your body. Your fingers should be moving in roughly the direction of your navel.

5. You will feel the prostate gland, which is like a small, round bulb about the size of a large walnut. Gently massage it with a light waving motion along its sides, taking care not to press hard on the central area, where the sensitive nerves are located. Avoid touching the prostate gland with your fingernails.

6. You may experience a disconcerting sensation that makes you feel like going to the bathroom although you do not have to. Try not to let it affect you, and continue with the procedure.

7. After a few minutes, the prostate gland may be stimulated enough for ejaculation to occur. You are also likely to experience sexual pleasure or orgasm. However, the procedure does not always successfully bring about ejaculation.

Prostate milking when used as a preventative treatment may carry a few risks. It is a technique that is not recommended for men who have a disease of the prostate or acute prostatitis, an acute inflammation of the glandular tissue. The problem in such cases is that the act of milking the prostate may cause the infection to spread to other areas of the body.

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A rabbit vibrator can be vibrating while inserted in the vagina like a normal vibrator, while also twirling around and rotating, and stimulating the clitoris on the outside. This stimulator is where this type of vibrator derives it’s name. The original rabbit vibrator had a small rubber rabbit with soft rubber ears to do the work of massaging the clitoris. Since then, the original rabbit has been updated, and hundreds of similar vibrators based on it’s design have been introduced, but many share these main features.

Some of these are better quality than others of course, and this is reflected in the wide range of features available, and in retail prices.

Some cheaper sex toys have a clitoris stimulating ‘nub’ on the shaft of the vibrator, but no moving parts other than the vibrator motor itself.

For the purpose of this page, we are discussing better quality rotating vibrators with actual moving, mechanical parts. This can include the rabbit on the shaft, and in some cases ball bearings that rotate around the shaft of the vibrator in a spiral motion.

These sex toys usually use at least 4 AA batteries to power the extra motorized feature s.. They often have the rotating beaded part in the shaft, a clitoris stimulator that’s sometimes able to move or vibrate, and the standard vibrating motor feature. In addition to all that stuff going on, many of these sex toys will also have the fancy, deluxe vibrator that’s controlled by a programmed chip. These can change the pitch and frequency of the vibration to create pulsating rhythms!

Most rabbits have a vibration control pack for this feature in the base of the shaft, like the impulse dancing teddy model pictured here. This means that instead of only vibrating at a faster or slower rate, most Rabbit Vibrators has a programmed circuit that can go through much more complicated patterns of vibration. Check out the wikipedia selection of rabbit vibe pictures, nice and up close.

It’s sometimes possible with these Rabbit Vibrators to control the speed of the rotation and clitoris stimulating parts as well.

Most vibrators are either inserted for penetration, or rubbed on the clitoris for stimulation – with a rabbit sex toy you get both at once, and for that reason they are very popular. Many women have found these to be a reliable way to have an orgasm.

The part that rotates on some models is inserted into the vagina for penetration. There are often some large ball bearings moving around a spiral in a circular motion, enclosed in a thin, flexible skin so that they can be felt as they rotate around the shaft.

You can just leave it in the vagina this way, instead of penetrating in and out. By keeping the rotating shaft in the vagina, the stimulator is in contact with the clit.

The vaginal stimulator on the outside of the shaft also rotates or wiggles on some designs. You can also rotate the ‘rabbit’ part so that it stimulates the anus instead of the clitoris area.

A ‘thumb’ with soft rabbit ears or ticklers, this moves around and vibrates against the clitoris, a shaft that has rotating beads, and a vibrator inside.

Apparently the rabbit is the sex toy of choice for the girls from HBO’s Sex in the City, some even call rabbits the ‘Sex in the City vibrator”.

This rotating Anal vibrator is a combination of a butt plug and a rotating vibrator. You have the typical shape of a butt plug, with a narrow tip for easy penetration and a flared out base so that it doesn’t go too deep. This particular sex toy adds a number of little beads enclosed in the shaft, which rotate around when you activate the controls.

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This clitoral stimulator is a soft jelly suction cup with tesing bumps and nodules in the cup. It is designed to be held against the clitoris. It hugs your entire clitoral area delivering tantalizing and teasing vibrations . It can also be used as a nipple toy, another powerful erogenous zone.

Clitoral stimulators are perfect for women who may have a difficult time having an orgasm with vaginal penetration only. You can a use clitoral stimulator while having sex, simply hold it against your clitoris, it is small enough not to get in the way. This usually works best in the ‘doggie style’ position but have fun experimenting with any position that works best for you, have fun with it becuase these mini vibrators are such a fun addition to your sex life!

Unlike most sex toys, these clitoral stimulators do not necessarily require the use of lubricant. This is becuase there is no penetration involved and the sensation of having something vibrating at high intensity on your clitoris will trigger the natural lubrication response on your vagina, so you may get be naturally lubricated which will help the clitoral stimulator to slip and slide around in your most erogenous spots. Wonderful feeling!

These two clitoral stimulators pictured here have the same concept however they give two different sensations. Both have quiet operation becuase the Vibrating egg is buried inside the supple jelly material which works as a silencer. Both have multi speed vibrations so you can tease your clitoris the way you like it. Out of all the clitoral stimulators, these two pictured here are best selling sex toys.

To clean your clitoral stimulator, wash it with hot water and mild soap or sex toy cleaner. Rinse well, dry with a lint-free cloth and store in a cool, dry place. When you wash it, be sure not to get the battery pack wet.

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How can I find my prostate ?
Insert your pre-lubed (use water based lubrication) index finger into the anus to the second knuckle and press forward in a firm “come here” motion. Make sure your finger nail is cut short and filed smooth, to avoid from scratching your rectum. You’ll be able to feel the prostate through the front part of the rectal wall, like a small tight rubber tire around your finger. The best position to do it is when you’re laying on back

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Prostate stimulation

First of all, Anal stimulation is very pleasurable for most men regardless of their sexual orientation due to the anatomic location of male genitals. The thing is that during Anal contact, prostate is stimulated to the best. Some men even try to hide these pleasant feelings out of fear to be misunderstood by their partner.

Intimate problems

Anal toy is effective device in solving such intimate problems as anatomic incompatibility of partner’s genitals. If for example, a woman’s vaginal muscles became flabbier after birth, she may feel that her vagina does not enfold penis as close as earlier, which make them get less satisfaction. This problem is easy to solve with the use of butt plug. This stimulator enlarges Anal area and thus makes vagina narrower.

Anal sex

Besides Anal toy is an essential part of Anal sex with your partner. The point is that penis insertion in anus without preliminary preparation can be quite painful and lead to tears, while Anal toy helps to loosen Anal muscles and prepare them for a better penetration.

Sensory stimulation

Anal toys come in variety of forms, materials, colors and types of stimulation. They are designed in a way that fits the Anal penetration to the best. There are pleasant to look at, to touch and give the possibility to experience Anal sex in full, including all your senses.

Safety

Anal stimulators have flared base, so that you shouldn’t worry about slipping your toy in the rectum. Above all, with a good care and cleaning they are much safer to use, as they won’t be an STD’s and germs transmitter.

All Anal sex toys serve as a kind of muscle training device, with a help of which you can learn your own sexual response, realize all your fabulous fantasies and use them in a sex play with partner.

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